A Time Of Many Changes

A pregnancy triggers a series of changes that both parents are forced to face. The biggest changes occurs to the expecting mother of course, from the physical to the emotional. I can say that my wife has handled her pregnancy to date magnificently. Currently seven months pregnant, she continues to go to work every day, as well as keep up with many of her favourite hobbies. For myself, the announcement of my wife’s pregnancy came during a time of great uncertainty.

Back in February when we first found out that my wife was pregnant, I was working in marketing for one of the countries leading oil and gas companies. The company was going through some restructuring that affected the department I worked for. I was offered a deal to either move across the country and keep my existing job or risk losing my job likely before the end of the year. My wife and I had just recently moved from Ottawa to Hamilton less than a year ago, and I wasn’t about to put my wife through a third move in less than four years, especially now that she was pregnant. Furthermore, we felt that by staying in Hamilton, it would allow us to be closer to our family and would only better our child’s upbringing in the years to come.

Find Job

Now I know what you’re all thinking, why try for a baby when you might not even have a job by the end of the year. A lot of our decision to try to conceive came down to fear and optimism. When I say fear, I mean we were unsure of how long it would take to be able to get pregnant. All the research we had done suggested to plan for around six months, which we figured would provide me enough time to find alternative employment. To our surprise, it happened almost instantly. Now obviously we were beyond excited, but in the back of my mind that worry of where I would be professionally by year-end began to set in. It was at this point that I put my job hunt into high gear.

I began applying aggressively and began getting some interviews. Some of the jobs I knew I was overqualified for, but viewed it as an opportunity to network and practice my interview skills. During an online networking attempt, I finally got a job lead with a company that had always been my first choice. It was a sales position, similar to one that I had worked in previously that I absolutely loved, and it was located closer to home. I interviewed with the manager and was offered the position a few weeks later. It’s almost bizarre how quickly your outlook on life can change. I owe a lot of the positive outcome to that original sense of optimism. I’m now in a position where I can start fresh with a great company; and most importantly, can confidently look forward to bringing a new life into this world.

Handshake.jpg

I owe a lot to this baby. She provided me the additional incentive to branch out and try new tactics to secure that job I really wanted. I’m now in a great spot where I’ll be working from home, in a position I love, and in a geography that will promote a better work-life balance. I’ll be starting this new job next week following a three-week break that I took after resigning from my previous role. A luxury that came from some good planning and savings. The time off has been great to allow me to recharge and refocus personally, help my wife as she continues with the pregnancy; but more importantly, it has allowed me to mentally prepared for the inevitable job of caring for a newborn that is fast approaching.

Some friends and family think we’re crazy, a new job and first baby all at once; and let’s face it, they’re probably right. Life gets a little unpredictable at times, but I firmly believe that things happen for a reason. I know my wife and I will handle this next chapter as well as we have handled the previous ones, and all the while hanging on to that little bit of optimism.

Thanks for stopping by!

RealTimeDad

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s