I know what you’re thinking, the Dad’s role in a baby shower must almost be non-existent, right? In my case, you’d almost be correct; however, I still managed to take part in the planning stages of what has traditionally been a very female-oriented event.
You have to know my wife, she’s a planner, plain and simple. I’m also fairly organised for a guy, but arguably my wife likes to know everything down to the last detail. We make a good team that way, and we rarely find ourselves in a ‘surprising’ situation. This ongoing sense of planning has helped us multiple times, from being able to successfully execute a wedding, to making the most of our vacation travel. My wife and her mother have been hard at work the past few weeks planning what I’m sure will be an amazing baby shower. My part has been very limited to say the least. Every once in a while, I’ll receive updates from my wife on how things are progressing. Invitations have been designed and printed, check. Venue has been reserved, check. Games have been chosen, check. Again, I find myself a little limited in terms of the input that I can provide, so when my wife asked me if I would like to take part in choosing the baby shower registry items, I said count me in.
Putting together a registry was one thing my wife and I never did for our wedding. By the time of our wedding day, we had been living together for over a year and surprisingly amassed a sizeable amount of household items. This is not quite the case as we await the arrival of our first baby. Aside from some personal baby items that had been saved by both sets of grandparents-to-be, we are literarily starting from scratch. So off we went to our local Babies “R” Us in Hamilton. My wife already had an idea of items that she was looking for, and she had already set up a registry account prior to our visit. Upon arriving at the store, we were provided with a handheld scanner and off we went scouring the aisles exploring the endless array of baby items.
I found myself amazed at the selection and variety of items that a future parent actually requires to raise a child. What I would recommend is starting with the larger items, such as the high chairs and working your way down to the smaller items, such as clothing items. My wife and I took turns in picking colours and designs. Some cool items that we found included the Boon Grass Drying Rack that allows you to easily dry baby bottles, as well as the Finding Nemo Sea of Activities Jumper that provides many engaging toys for a baby to pass the time with. For the more expensive items, we opted to lean towards gender neutral designs and colours, as we would like to have a second child in the future; whereas, we went for more gender-specific designs and colours for the smaller items, such as clothing. It was a great opportunity to explore the different products, imagine how our baby might enjoy one item over another, and start to visualise how our home is set to transform from young couple’s retreat to a baby-friendly playhouse.
After just a few scans of the handheld scanner, you quickly realise that having a baby is a significant financial investment, in addition to an emotional one. My wife and I have always strived to live independently, especially when it comes to our finances; however, you can see why baby showers are so popular to help couples prepare for their first baby’s arrival. Baby showers are truly a time to celebrate the beginning of a new life, a change in a woman’s role in her own life, and a time to bring family and friends together. The gifts, although extremely helpful and appreciated, are simply the icing on the cake.
I have no doubt that my wife will have an outstanding baby shower, and I’m excited to see how everything turns out. As a first time expecting Dad, I was thankful to be able to contribute in this small way. On the other hand, I recognise that the baby shower itself is a special time for the expecting mother and her family and friends to prepare for and enjoy, so I’ll leave the party planning responsibility to the ladies.
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